This is a continuation from my previous post 'What a waste! and more'..
I am feeling resentful.. I sort of told DH abt what I think of men (especially married men) hanging out at places that I mentioned earlier.. u know, the ones yang got 'kupu-kupu' malam..
I've never been to places like these, so I dun really know what goes on in there, but if I'm not mistaken, these kupu2 will sit next to the customers; drink with them and what else.. chit chat innocently bla.. bla.. they dun touch2 ka?
Hei, I'm not a jealous type of person, but if I see another woman touching my HUSBAND in an inappropriate kinda way, I think I'd freak out! Wouldn't u? Do u think these kupu2 are capable of touching them inappropriately with or without their permission? How many men out there would say "I'm married, don't touch me!"
Ok, their excuse is 'it's a job thing, they had to be there, surrounded by all these kupu2'.. lame excuse!!! There has to be other jobs out there that excludes these sort of activities... otherwise, entertain at places without kupu2 la.. DUH!!!!!
I asked DH, imagine if the situation was reversed; the Women (wife) had to go out entertain clients and surrounded by men yg gatal2.. How would they feel? He said that's not the same. I was like.. WHAT??!
I was pretty disappointed with DH's comments abt this matter... I was hoping that he would support my opinion but he didn't. Is he saying that it's OK for other women to touch another married men inappropriately and vice versa? I feel cheated, angry..
UPDATES: A day later, I got over it... No point to be angry. Life is too short to hold grudges. He doesn't go out that much anyway. He's a 'homeboy' remember :-)
I am feeling resentful.. I sort of told DH abt what I think of men (especially married men) hanging out at places that I mentioned earlier.. u know, the ones yang got 'kupu-kupu' malam..
I've never been to places like these, so I dun really know what goes on in there, but if I'm not mistaken, these kupu2 will sit next to the customers; drink with them and what else.. chit chat innocently bla.. bla.. they dun touch2 ka?
Hei, I'm not a jealous type of person, but if I see another woman touching my HUSBAND in an inappropriate kinda way, I think I'd freak out! Wouldn't u? Do u think these kupu2 are capable of touching them inappropriately with or without their permission? How many men out there would say "I'm married, don't touch me!"
Ok, their excuse is 'it's a job thing, they had to be there, surrounded by all these kupu2'.. lame excuse!!! There has to be other jobs out there that excludes these sort of activities... otherwise, entertain at places without kupu2 la.. DUH!!!!!
I asked DH, imagine if the situation was reversed; the Women (wife) had to go out entertain clients and surrounded by men yg gatal2.. How would they feel? He said that's not the same. I was like.. WHAT??!
I was pretty disappointed with DH's comments abt this matter... I was hoping that he would support my opinion but he didn't. Is he saying that it's OK for other women to touch another married men inappropriately and vice versa? I feel cheated, angry..
UPDATES: A day later, I got over it... No point to be angry. Life is too short to hold grudges. He doesn't go out that much anyway. He's a 'homeboy' remember :-)
3 comments:
ishk....susah la like this..good thing you said..kupu-kupu..their actually ugly moths you know...nasib not rama-rama...
i asked my DH those q's b4 kahwin..he said...it's up to me to discern and choose wisely..i was like..oo..ok...i guess he's trusting me..
but y dh dont visit these places la...even if he does..he'll be home by 11pm...syiok kan...
anyway...what happened to your silent treatment? tidak jadi kah?
my DH pun actually d type yg prefer to stay home punya, it was his 1st nite out with the guys in years.. his buddies yg suka go thr so he ikut saja..
My silent treatment intentions x jadi..hahaha... i was thinking, it's not fair for him to come home to a stressful place esp after long day at work.. lagipun, he's getting some offers to work outside of sabah... far2 away from his geng yg regulars at places like that.. phew!
my husband does go out with some friends ( not many friends he got over here) just to drink at certain places only. But he never spend much for drinking.
During the first couple years of our marriage, while we were in Shanghai,i had a deep talk wth other girlfriends about this thing. I thought at that time that infidelity is the main cause of failed marriage.And u know in china, doing biz deal always come with "entertaintment" and that means WOMEN! It was consider normal. We were shocked of course. ( but my dh job never deal with this things, but my gf;s dh yes). So then it is depends on the husbands and their principal.
anyway we came up wth 2 types of men:
1. Men who think it is ok to have sex by paying the woman ( prostitute) and cheated over their wives, they consider it as " hobby" or " treat" . Or just for one night stand, No emotion attached but just physically. They don't mind that the reason of the "woman" to sleep with him is because of his money only.
2. Men who think, it is shameful/disgraceful to use money to get laid with a woman. Meaning that: they are not attractive anymore ( men ego) and need $$ to make some "pretty" lady to sleep with them.
And that is like a slap to their face. But...if this type of men are involved in any affair, it means that it is emotionally attached and it is harder to be broken.
But again if one man really honor their marriage vows, no matter what , he shall try hard no to broke it.
But again we/they are only human...:)
My dh is not a crowd/friends pleaser. He is the type that doesn't follow any flow and doesnt give a tiniest damn of what people think abt him . Which is actually good for certain thing ( like this matter)
Good then if ur dh got the other opportunity! :)
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