I was inspired to write this post after reading Sandra's recent post abt finding common interest.
I met DH in 1995 during my on site training at BRL. He was the Front Office Supervisor and my 'boss' hahahaha.. I was there for a month. Went back to KK after completing my training, I never thought I would get an offer to work there. It was my first Fulltime Job! I was 19. So, I was back at BRL few months later for good. So, our relationship kicked off from there.
Believe it or not, we are total opposites! Opposites attract! Later we found out his personality was Sanguine/Choleric and I'm Melancholy/Phlegmatic (Personality Plus by Florence Littauer). This also meant that we complimented each other :-).
As for interest and hobbies, we had nothing in common! But as years passed, we sort of compromised and now most of the things he likes to do, I enjoyed doing too and vice versa. I think I'm more adventurous than him though.. DH is sooooooo laid back and prefer just sitting around watching TV or doing some gardening or tiding up at the back.. I can't stand that! Boriiiiiiiing!
These are some of the activities we used to do before Mia; Scuba diving, go out for drinks (yum cha) with friends till late at nite, catch a movie, go karaoke and sing... Now,.......... (*I can hear the crickets in the background... crick.. crick.. crick..*). The funny thing is, He's the one who's reluctant to go out and leave Mia with a babysitter (my mum/MIL/SIL). I've asked him a few times if he'd like to go catch a movie? He said if we can't bring Mia, he tidak sampai hati want to go.... So, whatever activities we do together now must be baby friendly; Travelling, eating out, attending functions etc. Except during formal functions, then we'll have no choice but to leave Mia with a babysitter.
So in order to avoid killing myself with boredom, during the day, I'll drop Mia at her playschool and enjoy some 'me' time at the gym, window shopping, groceries shopping etc. Next, I'm planning to go for piano lessons, catch a movie with a gf, go for ladies night and dance like crazy with other hot mamas!! (yupe, I love clubbing.. dancing, especially. I dun really like drinking alcohol.. paling2 I'll drink 1-2 glasses of red wine or vodka lime). DH doesn't like clubbing or going to karaoke bar for drinks... :-( He's such a homeboy!! Sometimes I miss my younger days..
It's funny, being a 'phlegmatic' I'm sooo much more outgoing compared to DH! and much more of a 'risk-taker'.. constantly seeking for new 'worthwhile' activities to occupy myself... making new friends, putting myself 'out there' to attract new opportunities... But then again, DH is probably stressed out due to his job. He was much more adventurous before, but 'corporate' life has changed him and not forgetting the age factor.. jadi 'uncle2 sudah'. He's only 4 years older than me though!
So, I have to take charge! In order to prevent him from becoming a couch potato in the near future, I must continue to plot and plan for exciting things for us to do as a family (hopefully not just in KK..). I really do hope DH comes across a better job opportunity soon, one that gives him a balance of both; benefits and time.
I'm worried that our life will be more boring especially when the number of family members begin to add up... I truly believe that being able to do things together as a family and as a couple can bring us closer together and create wonderful memories.
I met DH in 1995 during my on site training at BRL. He was the Front Office Supervisor and my 'boss' hahahaha.. I was there for a month. Went back to KK after completing my training, I never thought I would get an offer to work there. It was my first Fulltime Job! I was 19. So, I was back at BRL few months later for good. So, our relationship kicked off from there.
Believe it or not, we are total opposites! Opposites attract! Later we found out his personality was Sanguine/Choleric and I'm Melancholy/Phlegmatic (Personality Plus by Florence Littauer). This also meant that we complimented each other :-).
As for interest and hobbies, we had nothing in common! But as years passed, we sort of compromised and now most of the things he likes to do, I enjoyed doing too and vice versa. I think I'm more adventurous than him though.. DH is sooooooo laid back and prefer just sitting around watching TV or doing some gardening or tiding up at the back.. I can't stand that! Boriiiiiiiing!
These are some of the activities we used to do before Mia; Scuba diving, go out for drinks (yum cha) with friends till late at nite, catch a movie, go karaoke and sing... Now,.......... (*I can hear the crickets in the background... crick.. crick.. crick..*). The funny thing is, He's the one who's reluctant to go out and leave Mia with a babysitter (my mum/MIL/SIL). I've asked him a few times if he'd like to go catch a movie? He said if we can't bring Mia, he tidak sampai hati want to go.... So, whatever activities we do together now must be baby friendly; Travelling, eating out, attending functions etc. Except during formal functions, then we'll have no choice but to leave Mia with a babysitter.
So in order to avoid killing myself with boredom, during the day, I'll drop Mia at her playschool and enjoy some 'me' time at the gym, window shopping, groceries shopping etc. Next, I'm planning to go for piano lessons, catch a movie with a gf, go for ladies night and dance like crazy with other hot mamas!! (yupe, I love clubbing.. dancing, especially. I dun really like drinking alcohol.. paling2 I'll drink 1-2 glasses of red wine or vodka lime). DH doesn't like clubbing or going to karaoke bar for drinks... :-( He's such a homeboy!! Sometimes I miss my younger days..
It's funny, being a 'phlegmatic' I'm sooo much more outgoing compared to DH! and much more of a 'risk-taker'.. constantly seeking for new 'worthwhile' activities to occupy myself... making new friends, putting myself 'out there' to attract new opportunities... But then again, DH is probably stressed out due to his job. He was much more adventurous before, but 'corporate' life has changed him and not forgetting the age factor.. jadi 'uncle2 sudah'. He's only 4 years older than me though!
So, I have to take charge! In order to prevent him from becoming a couch potato in the near future, I must continue to plot and plan for exciting things for us to do as a family (hopefully not just in KK..). I really do hope DH comes across a better job opportunity soon, one that gives him a balance of both; benefits and time.
I'm worried that our life will be more boring especially when the number of family members begin to add up... I truly believe that being able to do things together as a family and as a couple can bring us closer together and create wonderful memories.
2 comments:
Me and my dh also agree that each of us need to have time with our "separated" friends. You know him with his guy friends for drinking and me with my girlfriends, to go window shopping and drinking coffee , watching chick movies ( read as Twilight and Newmoon ) or just some mani/pedi.
In every couple there will be the leader or the one that kick the other. Maybe in your case you are the one that need to persuade your dh to do something fun.
In my case my dh is kind of understanding that we need to spend some couple times.Actually he planned a trip for our 10th anniversary just 2 of us. Bt I am not ready to leave the kids alone ( with maid and my aunt )for a week! Then he also thought ya that is a bit too early and the kids are too young.
wah so syiok can go holiday.. but, ya u're right.. i guess it's probably too early to leave the kids for 1 week.. esp yr little Maya kan..
Myself & DH dun really enjoy traveling on our own.. weird kan.. We actually prefer traveling with a small group of family/friends who shares the same interest. We tried going off on our own a few times, we didn't really enjoy it.. hahaha.. we're such a weird couple :-p
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